What’s the difference between curious people and the rest of the world? We are all experts at being curious as kids, but we finish schooling with our curiosity damn near dead. What can we learn from those of us who retain or regain their curiosity to use as authors, leaders, entrepreneurs and coaches. The research provides some fascinating insights.
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With 16 years experience as an editor and senior journalist in the mainstream press, I have an established track record for creating great content—stories, links, tweets, blogs—quickly and efficiently across a wide range of industry sectors. I am an editor, journalist and content marketer.
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If you, like me, love to ask questions, this is a cautionary tale. Sometimes, you will ask a question you regret. Or wish you asked a question, but didn’t. So, how do we decide when to focus on asking questions?
I have asked a lot of stupid questions in my life as a business journalist. Fortunately, most were in one-on-one interviews, so my embarrassment was quarantined. Still, I remember piping up with a stupid question in a meeting once, and my cheeks burned for hours afterwards. Somewhere between the age of four and becoming a teenager, the number of questions we ask each day plummets from 300 to three. And, although most leaders understand the benefits of asking questions, they struggle to ask them. Why?
I have a new coaching and training program for company leaders about the “life-changing magic" of asking skilful questions. Exciting, right? Except that when I came to pick up the phone to prospective clients, my hand faltered. I had a crisis of confidence. Could I explain the value of questions? Before I had tested the possibility, I had decided the answer was no.
Sales can be a heartbreaking process. Or not. If you’d prefer it was not, here’s a plan. A few years ago, I sat in a cafe, coffee cooling, heart sinking, a prospective client in front of me. But I knew where this sales conversation would end—in a ‘no’. I had a service I knew would help this person. Somehow, I could never get it across. I left every meeting despondent.
It is 5 am in the morning in the year 2017, and I am sitting at my computer—desperate. (Who wouldn’t be at that time of day!) But I was a woman on a mission. I am trying to write my first book. I set myself a challenge: to write 50,000 words in 50 days—enough words for a book. I am busy running a business as well, so I get up at 5 am every morning and write until I hit the 1000-word mark, usually about an hour.
How embarrassing! Why I missed my blog deadline every week even though I am a professional writer and how you can hit yours even if you are not.June 26, 2019 2:00 pm Leave your thoughts
If you are a blogger who never blogs, this post is for you. If every week you get guilty and think, I really should blog, but you don’t, I have an embarrassing confession. I am a writer and I have been blogging more or less every week for the past six years. Yet every week, I missed the deadline for sending my blog to my wonderful virtual assistant, Ralph. Every week I would throw out his schedule because I missed my deadline. How rude.
The Buddhist meditation teacher and podcaster, Tara Brach, tells the story of a man who sees a dog near a tree in the woods. The dog is snarling and snapping viciously, and the man feels angry and afraid. But as he comes a little closer, he notices the dog’s leg is caught in a trap, and the animal is in terrible pain. Now the man feels compassion and sorrow for the suffering dog and understands why he is snarling.
Great ideas are more common than you think. I have several of them every day. Book titles, catchy phrases, new business innovations. I am a genius in my own mind. But (and yes, there is a but), the sheer brilliance of my thinking can evaporate when I start to write it down. What seemed deep and substantial before I wrote it, seems thin and wispy on the page. It can be a shocking moment. Authors are the ones that keep going past the shock and work out ways of substantiating their ideas.
You know how you always get your best ideas in the bath or the shower? I believe the scientists know all the neurochemical reasons, but as far as I am concerned, it’s because you are relaxed. Whenever I relax, great ideas pop into my mind. When I am tense or anxious, my ideas are sh*t (which makes me feel more tense and anxious. Sigh.) This Easter, put your book outline up on the wall. One page per chapter, one topic per chapter with three to five topics under each chapter message. Once you have stuck them up on the wall, you can look at all your chapters together